keeping leeways
I want to always keep more leeway on anything. It’s just because it’s cool. But having leeway is not an easy matter to tackle. Then how? It’s always a good solution to have a meta-thinking when reflecting on a complicated affair. From an analytic approach, leeway can be dissolved into three kinds.
financial leeways
Lack of money is one of the simplest causes of losing leeway. It leads to disappointment and a lowering of self-esteem, and it’ll be more difficult to get over a financial loss caused by one’s mistake.
In addition, a financial burden in a financially unaffordable time will increase the estimation in exchange for the payment unconsciously to convince oneself of the justification of the cost under a financial pinch. Too high expectations may bring about letdown and frustration towards the surroundings.
To tackle this problem, the simplest solution is to earn more money. If it’s difficult, it’s important to think about the plan for using money again. Is that saving really urgent now? Do you not expect to earn money more easily when having got older? Does that tight use of funds not let you lose something more precious? These reflections might work.
temporal leeways
Too many tasks pressure everyone. And they make people less tolerant. As well, just like in the case of money, precious time in a busy schedule will increase positive anticipation about this matter, being the inception of disappointment.
To address this problem, it’s effective to reconsider what you really want to do. Besides, it also works well to think about the significance of a one-day disturbance of your routine.
Time and money are similar. You can waste both of them. It’s actually also important to truncate the cause depriving you of leeway and use it for what you really want to do. Even if you finally decide to do something reluctant after thinking of truncation, you’ll be more responsible for your autonomous decision rather than criticising yourself or your neighbours.
physical leeways
Fatigue and hunger are main reasons for selfishness. Train your body, then you’ll be more able to care for others even at the end of the day. Be conscious that your selfishness is derived from starvation, and you’ll be ashamed of your wild and naïve nature.
mental leeways
When doing what you are not really good at, but you think it’s supposed to do, you might require it for others, too. This will be a cause for frustration towards others, too. Getting more competent about what you’re doing and being more content with how you are now are the two aspects of the solution. As well, meta-thinking is also efficient for mental issues, too, because it’s a matter of thoughts. By being aware that losing leeway is evidence of your shortage of competence, you might feel embarrassed with your frustration towards others.
Another solution is being proud of your excellency. Though it’s ideal to treat everyone equally, like when with a child, you might face a situation where you’re actually superior in caring or management. In fact, since it’s impossible that everyone has an equivalent degree of excellence, you are actually always superior to your friends at some point and also inferior at another point. Arrogance might raise the possibility of a pardon.
Though being tolerant sounds altruistic, actually when expressed as the extent of leeway, it owes to your self-recognition, decision and capabilities. As well as training yourself and improving your background, being conscious and responsible for them all will free you from blaming others and reproaching yourself and will allow you to maintain more leeway to keep a good relationship with others.